Adoption Institute Supports Gay Parents

“Based on both the available research and growing experience, the report finds no child-centered reason to prevent gays and lesbians from becoming adoptive parents, and recommends that they be utilized more extensively to provide permanent, loving homes for children living in state care across the country.” – Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute, in a report issued today

There’s also an article in the Washington Post.

These are the recommendations of the report, which is available in full here.

  • Move to end legal and de facto restrictions on adoption by gays and lesbians. This includes working to expand co-parent and second parent adoption, as well as revising agency policies and practices that may impede their consideration as an adoptive resource.
  • Develop clear statements in support of such adoptions, recognizing a “don’t ask, don’t tell” approach disadvantages parents and, ultimately, their children. And develop contacts with the gay/lesbian community in order to engage in genuine, informed outreach.
  • Help workers, supervisors, and agency leaders examine their attitudes and beliefs about gay and lesbian parenting, while affirming the value of these families by including them in outreach, training materials, and parent panels.
  • Conduct research to inform the development of resources, training, and support to improve post-adoption success. And work to include and educate children in the process, recognizing that they may encounter prejudice if adopted by gay parents.

This report is the result of an extensive review and analysis of the issues and research over the last several decades. Unlike the tiny sound-alike think tanks (like these) created by the anti-gay right to fabricate “controversy,” this is a legitimate, professional agency that develops policy positions on the basis of sound research and the best interests of children and families.

It’s sad to even have to point it out, but one of the principal findings of the report is this:

Laws and policies that preclude adoption by gay or lesbian parents disadvantage the tens of thousands of children mired in the foster care system who need permanent, loving homes.

Anyone who advocates or votes for such anti-family, anti-child laws and policies is confused and misinformed. If you happen to know of anyone like that, for instance in the Virginia General Assembly, please help to educate them.

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The future, continued

Update: Raising Kaine has picked up on this survey.


Despite the best Anti-Gay Industry efforts to create a backlash, a poll just released by the Pew Research Center for the People and the Press shows that opposition to marriage equality has declined substantially since same sex marriage became the reality in Massachussetts. In particular:

“The number of people who say they strongly oppose gay marriage has dropped from 42 percent in early 2004 to 28 percent now. Strong opposition has dropped sharply among senior citizens and Republicans.”

You can read the entire survey report at Pew Research Center.

What this demonstrates is the power of objective reality and common sense to overcome fear and deliberate misinformation.

To advocate for equality for all families, we simply need to be visible and tell the truth about our families.

To oppose equality for all families, our opponents have to: lie about us, use fear and violence and intimidation to discourage us from being visible, create fake think tanks and “research,” censor works of art and literature, distort scripture, damage family relationships, and distract government from addressing real problems. That sounds like an awful lot of work to be fighting a losing battle.

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Senator Allen, meet the future.

At his Town Hall meeting in Culpeper Tuesday night, Senator George Allen was confronted by someone he apparently wasn’t expecting.

Tully Satre is the founder and executive director of both Equality Fauquier/Culpeper, and the CEEVA Initiative, a statewide organization recently formed to defend the rights of Virginia’s GLBT youth. Tully is also a 16 year old high school student.

His exchange with Senator Allen is detailed on his blog, and was much more extensive than reported so far in the media. This was an incredibly brave example of speaking truth to power, in the midst of a hostile crowd cheering on Allen’s anti-gay remarks. Tully, in the course of this exchange, made it clear that equal treatment under the law is not a special right. He refused Allen’s attempt to reframe the issues, illustrating through the example of slavery that what the majority might believe can result in the violation of human rights, and that the Constitution was established to protect all Americans.

One person can make a difference. Because of Allen’s presidential aspirations, there were many reporters in that room, including from the Washington Post and New York Times. They all wanted to talk to Tully, which seemed to make Senator Allen very uncomfortable. (Why Allen was surprised and flustered to discover that a New York Times reporter was there is anybody’s guess, but he didn’t seem to like the idea that his remarks about our community and the Constitution were getting such broad exposure.)

Tully began by thanking Allen for his past support for the inclusion of sexual orientation in hate crimes legislation, and wanted to know why he had suddenly changed his position in 2005. He added “I’ve had several letters in the past few weeks, threatening my family and my life because I’m an openly gay Virginian.”

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Trustworthy, loyal, helpful, and consistent

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THE BOY SCOUTS WANTED this. They fought for it. So it’s more than a little ironic that they would complain now.

“This” is the right to exclude gay members and leaders from the Boy Scouts of America. BSA won this right in court on the argument that, as a private organization, they have the right to freedom of association.

So far, so good. We may not agree with the rationale, but private groups do have the right to exclude whoever they wish.

Unfortunately, as pointed out in this L.A. Times editorial, the Scouts are now suing every locality that gets in the way of their access to public money and public facilities, such as the sweet deal they used to have with the city of San Diego. We’re sure there are many private groups that would like to lease acres of parkland for $1 per year, or get the free use of a marina, but the rest of us don’t get Special Rights handed to us.

Private standards = private funding. Public funding = including all of the public. Pick one, guys.

By the way, in our vintage (circa 1979) Official Boy Scout Handbook, under the heading “What is a family?”, appears the following passage:

“Two parents, one, or none – what makes up a family is not the number of people or whether they are related by blood. It is the way they care for each other, share with each other.”

If only this sensible observation were reflected in official Boy Scout policy. Check out Scouting For All to see what folks are doing about that.

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Why Courts Are Adopting Gay Parenting

For those who may have missed this outstanding editorial:

Washington Post
March 12, 2006
By Dahlia Lithwick

A heads-up to those of you still fretting about the alleged evils of gay marriage: The parade has moved on. Try as you may to vote, or legislate your way out of a country that solemnizes such relationships, committed gay couples are already giving birth to, adopting and fostering children. Whether or not same-sex marriage becomes widely legal in America, same-sex parenting is a done deal.

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This statement in particular goes to the heart of the matter:

The arguments for locking gay parents out of formal parenting arrangements include the familiar litany of complaints about health, morals and the sanctity of traditional marriage. But when real family court judges face real children in real family relationships, those arguments are quickly blunted by real concerns.

Despite the contorted efforts of anti-gay activists to make it all about their personal beliefs, family law is about the best interests of children – and it’s hard to argue with a straight face that children aren’t in all cases better off in stable homes with parents who love them.

The author takes to task Institute for American Values contributor Sara Butler Nardo for snippily dismissing the concept of “de facto” parenting as a “new circular definition of parenthood–a parent is a person who performs the function of a parent.” Well, exactly. As opposed to what, a person who procreates, but fails to parent? “De facto” isn’t just a nine-dollar lawyer word. It actually means something, having to do with real people in the real world.

Butler Nardo also administers the Family Scholars Blog. This is an online community populated by some actual scholars – and also a few of the most wacked out reactionaries you will ever encounter. It’s a pretty good read, if you enjoy that sort of thing. Notably, there is much fussing on this blog about every advance toward fairness for all families and children – but somehow, complete silence about this article. Maybe they just overlooked it.

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Common ground

Here are a couple of WaPo articles on a developing dialogue between the GLBT community and conservative fundamentalist Christians.

Unlikely Alliance Takes on School Conflict
reports on just-released consensus guidelines on addressing sexual orientation issues in schools. The guidelines were developed by the Christian Educators Association International (CEAI) and the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN), with the help of mediators.

GLSEN Press Release
CEAI Press Release
Public Schools and Sexual Orientation (PDF)

This is one of the more sensible documents that has surfaced in recent memory. It could have been written about Loudoun, and addresses perfectly the unpleasant situation regarding student plays we have watched unfold over the past year.

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Don’t poke the bear

Archive of drama policy material

The panel on the LCPS theatrical presentations policy held last night was very illuminating – kudos to the LEAP program coordinators for pulling it together. There will be a detailed report later below the fold, but to summarize: A climate of fear exists in the high schools, and it is resulting in an unlawful implementation of the policy. This was freely admitted by the panel. Perfectly valid and appropriate plays are being rejected in order to avoid “poking the bear” – stirring up another controversy like we saw a year ago. The plays that are being performed this year are, in the words of one panelist, “Disney crapola.”

What the panelists described is a textbook case of the “heckler’s veto” in action. Ideas and viewpoints are being suppressed because – and only because – they might offend someone and create controversy. The panel also freely acknowledged that what is happening would not withstand a court challenge. It is unlawful viewpoint discrimination.

When the anti-gay right expressed satisfaction with the policy last year, we said that their intention was to bring about exactly this outcome. They no doubt see it as a victory that a good principal described his treatment by them as “some of the worst days of my life,” and that a good teacher affirms that the climate of fear and uncertainty has been detrimental to the kids.

If this is the case, it is a false victory. The other thing that was brilliantly clarified by the panel is that this chain of events has created enormous opportunities (necessities, really) to have conversations with the students about what topics are controversial, why they are controversial, the meaning of “the sensibilities of the community,” and “socially appropriate behavior,” and other issues raised by the policy and the actions of pro-censorship activists in the community.

It’s worth asking here what the bear is and who is poking it.

These conversations can only be a good thing. This “victory” contains the seeds of its own destruction and will ultimately be a positive development for our community. Perhaps we should send flowers to Concerned Women for America and Dick Black.

The panelists were: Jim Person, principal of Stone Bridge High School; Ned Waterhouse, Deputy Superintendent; Carolyn Perry, English Supervisor for the LCPS Department of Curriculum and Instruction; and John Wells, drama teacher and Chair of Fine Arts at Loudoun County High School.

Neither the School Board members nor the Superintendent were present due to a budget hearing.

UPDATE: As promised, a full report below.

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