“NoVa4marriage” launches. Hilarity ensues.

Our anti-gay friends from NoVA Townhall have launched their website pimping for the Marshall-Newman amendment.

A brief frolic through the linkfarm yields this gem:

“It is the hope of the homosexual community that if they can masquerade as successful parents, as the all-American family next door, that our resistance to their also being married will weaken.”

Somebody help me here. How does one tell the difference between someone who is “masquerading” as a successful parent, and someone who actually is a successful parent? If it turns out that I am indeed masquerading, does that mean that my son is masquerading as a successful person?

Another linked source cites the studies of same sex parenting outcomes and actually presents the slightly increased flexibility in gender roles of these children as a negative. We are not making this up. The conclusions of “studies that show that sons of lesbians are less masculine and that daughters of lesbians are more masculine” are characterized as, quote, “Children raised in SS homes experience gender and sexual disorders.”

Also worth noting: It’s impossible to navigate through this nonsense without stumbling over this or that version of “God’s design,” which would seem to threaten that whole “we’re not trying to impose one religious view of marriage, we’re making secular arguments” thing.

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It’s the economy, stupid.

Another editorial from the series on GLBT life in the Daily Press:

Intolerance is costly:
Marriage amendment would hurt our ability to lure companies here
May 28, 2006
By John Sternlicht

If Virginia voters endorse the Marshall/Newman amendment, the so-called “marriage protection” amendment, we would be shooting ourselves in the foot when it comes to attracting high-tech workers and cutting-edge companies.

Does Virginia want to be part of the knowledge economy or not?

In enshrining this redundant and unnecessary intolerance in our Bill of Rights, we Virginians move to abridge the rights of unmarried citizens of any stripe in a way no sister state has done before. Far from “promoting marriage,” we are limiting our economic opportunities and those of the next generation [emphasis added].

That should be the Some Families Foundation tagline: We must ensure that we limit economic opportunities for future generations. Because that’s what people who are threatened by objective information do.

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We must be for real, we have a song

Update: New mix available for download here.

Compliments of Waldo, a Marshall-Newman Amendment protest song. You can download it from the author/musician, Brady Earnhart. A commenter has posted the lyrics to Waldo’s site.

In response to one of our local anti-gay activists, who complained that the song unfairly links the amendment effort to homophobia, Earnhart gently and compassionately explains the connection, ending with

..Any decent folk who are now in favor of the amendment ought to be aware of the toxicity that will seep out of it down the road.

His lyrics and commentary are dead on. What we have seen in other states with so-called “marriage” amendments is that those who insisted that their only interest was in “protecting traditional marriage” were not satisfied with that. The aftermath of amendments in states like Oklahoma and Michigan has been the introduction of legislation that strips away additional rights from GLBT people and our families, using the amendment as justification.

What will happen in Virginia? First of all, legislation to rescind the Small Business Insurance Parity Act will be introduced – making Virginia once again the only nanny state in the nation to dictate to private businesses how they administer their insurance plans. What’s that? The AG says the amendment doesn’t apply to private contracts? You must be kidding – the opposition to that bill was completely framed in terms of how such benefits are like the benefits of marriage, and therefore Virginia businesses shouldn’t be allowed to offer them to “homosexuals.” We will see a barrage of anti-gay legislation and the hate-filled rhetoric that goes with it that even surpasses the 2005 session.

It doesn’t matter whether the amendment would directly void such arrangements or benefits. The intent of its architects is to keep going until GLBT people are driven back into the closet and unable to even safely speak up for ourselves. The decent, well-meaning people (and there are some) who genuinely mean us no harm and think they can support this amendment without causing us harm are very sadly mistaken. Each and every one of us knows someone like this. They need us to help them understand the truth, and to vote “NO.”

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Faith Groups Key in Marriage Debate

Note that the Some Families Foundation plans to focus heavily on African-American churches in their campaign to drum up support for the amendment. Also note the prominent role of Jack Stagman’s “Loudoun Church Alliance,” which he previously claimed did not take a position on marriage equality. “We are not making a stand or a statement in that area at all,” Stagman told the Washington Post in 2004. “The focus of what we are all about is strengthening marriage and reducing divorce.” Stagman, who holds a mail-order degree in divinity, seems to believe that “God’s wrath” (not infidelity, immaturity or incompatibility) forces heterosexual couples to get divorced. With that formulation, I don’t imagine his Healthy Marriage Initiative enjoys much success.

Alexandria Connection
May 25, 2006
By Brian McNeill

Thirty-nine years ago in Virginia, Reston resident Hank Blakely, an African American, would have been prohibited from marrying Lillian Christman, his wife of 25 years. Knowing that interracial marriages were illegal in Virginia until a 1967 U.S. Supreme Court ruling, Blakely sees parallels to the current debate over a proposed constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage and civil unions.

“The obscenity of that law still today makes me so angry I can feel it. It would have stopped me from marrying my wife,” Blakely said. “The parallel to me is inescapable. We need to defeat this pernicious, mean-spirited, evil thing that people call the ‘marriage amendment.'”

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Virginia’s property rights are at risk in November

More from the Daily Press:

…[T]oday, the majority of assets owned by Virginians are subject to private contracts and agreements and do not pass to loved ones under their wills or probate. Most of the assets we have today are owned – and will transfer upon our deaths – based on private contractual arrangements that we make during life. These contracts include beneficiary designations (such as you have on life insurance, IRAs, 401(k)s or retirement plans) and depository agreements with your bank or credit union (when you decide how to “title” your account as joint, with survivorship or “payable on death,” for instance). These are all private contracts…

…What if two friends or roommates name each other – each a non-spouse – as an insurance or IRA beneficiary, or as survivor on a bank account? Who’s to say whether they intended, by these private, contractual arrangements, to approximate some elements of the significance or effect of a marriage? A next of kin could claim that the reciprocal naming of beneficiaries was evidence of an implied agreement that approximates marriage.

Spouses make reciprocal arrangements all the time. In fact, with employer-related plans, spouses need each other’s permission to do anything else. From a property standpoint, the reciprocal naming of one another as beneficiaries by unmarried cohabitants approximates marriage in violation of the proposed amendment, which could lead to challenges to the deliberate estate planning choices of unmarried persons.

And guess what? Hostile family members challenging these arrangements, or, for that matter, batterers and stalkers contesting protective orders, aren’t going to give a rat’s ass about the opinion of our Attorney General that the legislature didn’t intend for the Marshall-Newman amendment to have this reach, and neither will the judges who will be hearing these cases.

Those judges will instead look to a much more accurate source for an interpretation of that intent, the actions of the legislators themselves. When language was proposed to the amendment that would have specifically exempted certain private arrangements and domestic violence law from the scope of the amendment, the legislature resoundingly voted it down. It couldn’t be more clear that their intention was to create the broadest possible restrictions.

In fact, the more coherently and comprehensively any two unmarried people try to arrange the business and financial affairs between them, the more likely it is that their estate planning efforts will be construed as an attempt to mimic marriage in violation of the amendment, whether those parties are elderly siblings with no romantic relationship, or two seniors who are indeed romantically involved but who have specific financial reasons for choosing not to marry.

And we have another five months to watch the amendment pimps digging themselves deeper into this hole.

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Thoughts of some fellow Virginians

Came across some letters to the editor from the Daily Press in Hampton Roads about their series on the local gay community. I especially like the first one, it made me laugh:

After reading the May 13 article, “Gay-marriage ban advances,” I could not stand idly by without making a comment. If homosexual marriage is allowed, it will open Pandora’s box, and it will never be closed.

This is a Christian nation and its tenets of Christianity should be adhered to. Look at the first drawing of Jamestown; it had a cross emblematized in the center of the fort. Look at all of our government buildings and their Christian symbols. Read the inaugural addresses of all our presidents; they all gave mention of God almighty. Even our currency has “In God We Trust” on it.

Since 19 states have banned homosexual marriages, that sends a powerful message to our nation and the world that we are a moral society and reject the homosexual agenda. If everyone practiced homosexuality there would be no society in a generation. Who would give birth to our children?

Gov. Timothy M. Kaine and voters of this commonwealth: Please champion Christianity and what it stands for; for if we do not we could end up as the Roman society did 2,000 years ago, “gone with the wind!”

Robert F. Southard
Williamsburg

Obviously, this person does not understand the history of symbolism in this country or that to trust in God, one does not have to be Christian. Suicide bombers mention God almighty also, so our presidents must be in good company. Robert obviously does not know any lesbians – if everyone practiced homosexuality, then the lesbians would give birth to our children. I think the plumbing would still work. Lastly, it is interesting that Robert closes with the phrase “gone with the wind”. Psychologically speaking, he may be yearning for a time he would be most confortable in when his nation exemplified its tenents, he would be free to beat the backs of his fellow man bloody, and be willing to die for that privilege.

More letters here.

…I’m straight and have had no close encounters with gay couples, but I think they’re getting a bad deal. There is a gay couple that attends the same church I do, and I’ve seen the same loving, caring relationship that existed between me and my wife of 55 years…

…Why should anyone pay taxes and not be granted their civil rights?…

…If gays are created in God’s image, like everyone else, and they come with all the baggage God bestows on them as people, how can this not be part of God’s plan? … God works in mysterious ways, and we should be thankful that he created all of us, for we all have gifts to bring to the table. That is God’s plan…

…Let us suppose for a moment that this legislative amendment to “protect marriage” does pass. Consider this:

Will divorces cease? Will infidelity cease? Will couples stop living together outside of marriage? Will spousal abuse be a thing of the past? Will there be no need for child protective services? Will child support payments be made consistently? Will there be no need for foster care facilities? … So much time and money would be better spent on addressing these aforementioned issues than on denying basic civil rights to our fellow citizens…

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Let California be California

Reading some blogs, our fellow Virginians are quite active. This one came across my eyes when one sentence stood out and in my silly mind, thought about aliens (a seeming advancement of “modern intelligent beings” such as us here on earth) and how people say they are genderless:

“Is there any greater evidence that God’s created order is increasingly attacked and eroded with each passing day and that the differences in the genders are being blurred beyond recognition?”

Then again, let the Californians worry about what happens in California and let us Virginians worry what happens in Virginia. You need a personality test to live successfully in CA anyway (having lived there). Then again, you probably need one for VA also.

How strong is your commitment to an equal society? But seriously, the mom and dad textbook thing is a little puzzling.

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