Time to get serious

Roanoke Times, August 1, 2006

Marriage amendment can be defeated:
Mason-Dixon poll shows that the measure’s support isn’t as overwhelming as opponents may have feared.

Few people were probably shocked by a poll showing that a constitutional amendment to ban gay marriage and civil unions is favored in Virginia. The only surprising thing about the poll numbers is that the margin was as low as it was: 56 percent supporting to 38 percent opposed, with 6 percent undecided.

Great editorial. It would have been even better if they had pointed out that the polling question left out the most important two-thirds of the amendment that people will actually be voting on. When they see the whole thing, support drops well below 50%.

There is a more informative piece in the August 4 Virginia Pilot:

Only half the story on marriage edict

Meanwhile, the Some Families Foundation, in their inimitable urgent tone, tells us that “polls don’t mean anything” in August. Translated, this means they’re getting worried.

We can win this one, folks. We just have to do the work. For crying out loud, all we’re asking people to do is read the darn thing before they vote. Contact us to see how you can help.

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What I learned about common law marriage from Bob McDonnell

I thought that I had a fairly good grasp of the implications of the Marshall-Newman amendment (at least for a layperson who reads law journals for fun), but hearing Attorney General Bob McDonnell explain why he thinks I shouldn’t be overly concerned about it has only raised more reasons to be concerned.

I knew that Virginia law has no provision for recognizing common law marriage – but Virginia does currently recognize, because of the full faith and credit clause, marriages entered into at common law in other states.

Now we know that would change if Marshall-Newman passes.

In response to a question at Tuesday night’s Town Hall meeting, McDonnell clearly stated that the Marshall-Newman amendment would prohibit the recognition of a common law marriage entered into in another state.

It is widely assumed, although only true in some states, that when a couple presents themselves to the community as if they are married, after a certain period of time (criteria vary by state), they are legally considered to be married, with all the rights and obligations of marriage.

Common law marriage makes you a legally married couple in every way, even though you never obtained a marriage license. If you choose to end your relationship, you must get a divorce, even though you never had a wedding. Legally, common law married couples must play by all the same rules as “regular” married couples. If you live in one of the common law states and don’t want your relationship to become a common law marriage, you must be clear that it is your intention not to marry.
Common law marriage fact sheet, Alternatives to Marriage Project

States that recognize common law marriage:

  • Alabama
  • Colorado
  • Georgia (if created before 1/1/97)
  • Idaho (if created before 1/1/96)
  • Iowa
  • Kansas
  • Montana
  • New Hampshire (for inheritance purposes only)
  • Ohio (if created before 10/10/91)
  • Oklahoma
  • Pennsylvania (if created before 9/03)
  • Rhode Island
  • South Carolina
  • Texas
  • Utah
  • Washington, D.C.

Therefore, unsuspecting straight couples who are legally married in one of these states, upon moving to Virginia, will find that they are no longer married. Since there will be no formal notification of this fact, they will in many cases find this out in the midst of some horrible crisis, when having the validity of their familial relationships challenged is the last thing they need.

Even better: Crafty people who find themselves in common law marriages that they want out of without the pesky legal responsibility of a divorce settlement can flee to Virginia. Yay! We can become a haven not only for parental kidnappers seeking to avoid the federal no-custody-judge-shopping law, but irresponsible deadbeats and jerks who want an easy way to dissolve their marriages.

Marshall-Newman proponents will retort that there is no record of this having happened as the result of another state constitutional amendment. This is true, for the simple reason that no previous state amendment’s language has gone as far as Marshall-Newman.

Vote “NO”, Virginia.

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Have you seen one?

A new organization, The Virginia Way, has entered the Virginia political discourse. They describe their mission as a campaign to return to political moderation and civility, characterized by intelligent debate, not appeals to base emotion, and they identify the issue that best “illustrates the erosion of the tone of public discourse in Virginia” as the campaign for the so-called “Marriage Amendment.” On the emotional appeal to fear of “activist judges” as seen in Some Families Foundation action alerts:

Judges in Virginia are selected by our Republican dominated and highly conservative state legislature. Unlike federal judges they do not enjoy lifetime tenure. As a result the Virginia judiciary is among the most conservative in the nation. There isn’t a knowledgeable person in the state who seriously believes that the Virginia Supreme Court is poised to declare our state’s current marriage laws unconstitutional.

Nonetheless, wishing to display a generosity of spirit and give amendment supporters the benefit of the doubt, we are sponsoring a hunt for Virginia’s elusive “zealous liberal judges” so the real danger can be properly assessed. If such creatures actually exist it is important that they be identified and the public properly warned.

The Virginia Way also provides the answer to my frequent question: Does Virginia really want to get in line behind Alabama? It’s worth a read.

Today Virginia faces a stark choice similar to that faced by Atlanta and Birmingham in civil rights era. In response to events in far off Massachusetts, radicals have proposed an amendment to our state constitution with the clear purpose of thwarting consensus, precluding bridge building and inhibiting accommodation for differing views…

…The sad reality is that the discrimination amendment is designed not to protect marriage, but to prevent Virginia’s moderate majority from reaching a workable consensus on a very difficult issue. It is possible to preserve the traditional definition of marriage but perhaps make some lesser accommodation for non traditional households. A lot of Virginians who do not support same gender marriage are open to that idea — and it scares our state’s modern day Bull Connors very much.

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Update on Aldie hate crime

Update: More coverage in the Loudoun Independent, Loudoun Connection, and the Leesburg Today.

Many people have asked what they can do to help with healing and restoration in the wake of this cowardly attack. A group of concerned citizens and faith leaders met Monday night with one of the homeowners and started making plans to turn this ugly incident into something positive that can bring the community together. We are making plans for a community work day in October to restore their landscaping, and will be announcing the details of that shortly. We are also in the process of setting up a foundation that will allow people to donate toward the restoration of Heyward and John’s property (insurance will not cover the damage, which they currently estimate at around $10,000), and will continue to exist as a resource in the case of any future attacks on members of our community in Virginia.

Our primary objective, of course, is to make sure that anyone who thinks that there is something to be gained by such ugly behavior realizes that they are mistaken. Heyward and John have set a wonderful example in that regard, making it clear that they are focusing on the supportive response of the community, and have no intention of moving. From the Loudoun Times-Mirror:

Most of the community has been supportive of the two men. Ellis called the friendship shown Drummond and him from many neighbors “a celebration of humanity.”

Drummond sent out a letter to neighbors Sunday to let them know about the incident. Since then, neighbors have stopped by to help clean up the damage, visit and bring flowers.

“You have to focus in on all of this beauty that’s being extended,” Ellis said. “Even though something very non-beautiful happened, you have to focus in on the beautiful part.”

Further press coverage can be found in the Leesburg Today, Loudoun Easterner (including my letter), and the Washington Blade.

Thanks to photoblogger Isis for sharing these images with us.

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Three questions at NoVA Town Hall

The NoVA Town Hall meeting featuring Attorney General Bob McDonnell drew over 100 attendees last night, an impressive feat in August by any standard.

The AG spoke on two allegedly “hot” controversial topics, the Marshall-Newman amendment and immigration policy. I must say that the latter topic was considerably hotter than the former. The amendment segment seemed of little interest to the crowd, other than the questions posed to the AG from amendment opponents. There was no applause for any of his statements or answers to questions during that segment. There were no questions from the pro-amendment side, other than a statement from a local anti-gay activist about the supposed “name-calling” directed at people who support the amendment (“bigot” was his example, a term I have said many times I don’t find particularly helpful). As a side note, it’s ironic that this comment came from a person who has been found guilty of defamation by a Virginia court, but I digress.

The immigration segment, on the other hand, became very animated and emotional, with frequent outbursts of applause and interjections from the audience. Why? I would suggest that the issue of immigration actually has a material impact on the day to day lives of people. The issue of whether GLBT Virginians have access to the benefits of marriage does not. Our ability to protect our family relationships, whatever it’s called, has no impact whatsoever on the quality of life of our neighbors. Sensible people can see that, and they did not come to Sterling on a hot August night to hear about same-sex marriage.

Having said that, there were some very good questions posed about the proposed amendment. I will discuss three of them, rephrased for better clarity and conciseness. The first was this:

You have said that basic private contract rights would not be affected by the amendment. If I and another person were to enter into a particular set of contracts, such as a will, a medical directive, a beneficiary of insurance benefits designation, a power of attorney, etc, and this set of contracts aligned more or less with the rights that would be granted by a domestic partnership, is there a point at which this aggregation of individual contracts would become an “approximation” of marriage and become unenforceable, as private contracts? Would Virginia courts enforce and uphold these contracts, or would the fact that they approximate a domestic partnership in aggregate render them unenforceable?

Unfortunately, McDonnell either misunderstood the question or chose to answer a different question. His answer was that the amendment would prohibit domestic partnerships as a “legal status.” Well, duh. That is what the amendment says. That was not the question, however.

McDonnell did say at one point that it is the responsibility of the legislature to make sure that the bills they draft are clearly written and in this case, clearly define what is prohibited. The fact that the above question needs to be asked is a stark indication that the proposed amendment fails to meet that standard.

The second question was mine. It irks me that pro-amendment activists continue to repeat the falsehood that “the amendment only puts in the constitution what already exists in law,” when that is so demonstrably untrue.

You stated that the amendment “merely raises to the level of constitutional protection what is already in existing law.” How then do you explain the fact that existing law, for example the “Affirmation of Marriage Act,” explicitly states that these restrictions apply to same sex couples, while the proposed amendment does not contain this language, and would therefore apply to all unmarried couples? It seems to me that this is a very significant extension of these restrictions, since there are many, many more unmarried straight couples than there are same sex couples in Virginia. Do you not feel that this is a significant difference?

McDonnell conceded that yes, the amendment is in fact an extension beyond what is already in Virginia law, and I hope that having this on record will end the perpetuation of at least that piece of misinformation.

The third question is one that I would like to explore a bit more, because I really didn’t understand the implications of this until last night. This question was asked by someone I know to be a very religiously conservative person, who is not at all a friend of the GLBT community.

Virginia code currently says that it is a criminal misdemeanor for a minister to perform a marriage ceremony for a union that would not be a legal union in the Commonwealth. The law is effectively unenforceable because to enforce it would violate the religious liberty clause of our Bill of Rights. With the passage of this amendment, a particular definition of marriage would be elevated to the same constitutional level as the religious liberty clause. Wouldn’t these two elements of our Bill of Rights then be in conflict with each other, and would ministers who perform the religious rites of marriage without including the civil license be subject to prosecution?

An excellent question that didn’t get a satisfactory answer. McDonnell never addressed the undeniable fact that the language of the amendment would become part of our Bill of Rights and elevated to the same level as our other basic freedoms that reside there.

Let’s take a stroll down this potential trajectory. As is often the case, we have a law on the books that is clearly unconstitutional. The right of any faith community to define for themselves what they consider religious marriage and what rites they will perform is fundamental to religious liberty. We don’t make orthodox rabbis perform intermarriages between Jews and non-Jews. We don’t force traditional Catholic priests to perform marriages of divorced people. And we do not tell open and affirming congregations that they may not celebrate sacred unions for same sex couples if that is what their faith calls them to do. To do any of these things would be flat out unconstitutional.

Currently, there is no particular motivation to repeal this ridiculous law, because our Bill of Rights renders it effectively unenforceable.

Enter the Marshall-Newman amendment.

Suddenly, we have a situation in which the particular definition of marriage that will be recognized by the state has been raised to the same level of constitutional protection as the clause in our Bill of Rights that guarantees the right of people of faith to celebrate the religious rites of marriage as dictated by their faith, not the state.

Now that unconstitutional law is no longer unconstitutional, because its basis has been elevated to the level of the constitution itself.

Now it is enforceable, and ministers whose deeply held religious beliefs don’t permit them to discriminate by performing civil marriage for only some of their congregants, or who believe that marriage should be only a religious rite, are subject to prosecution.

Now that the religious liberty of Virginia citizens is at risk from criminal prosecution, there is motivation to repeal the law – but now that a particular definition of marriage has become a part of our Bill of Rights, repealing the law becomes politically impossible. The basis for it is now part of our constitution, and it can be enforced at will.

One down, four to go. Which one of our basic freedoms is next?

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There it is

Think of this what you will, but this is what defense lawyers do for a living, and this is the way our criminal justice system works. No, it can’t be substantiated whether this individual is, in fact, a criminal defense lawyer, and no, it would not be in his/her stated self interest to see the amendment defeated. Those are certainly legitimate arguments. However, Virginia domestic violence service agencies have been told exactly the same thing by known criminal defense lawyers. Posted anonymously on another blog:

Nope, this isn’t lawyer fear-mongering. This is a lawyer giving you a promise you can take to the bank.

Here’s another. I *promise* you that on the first occasion after the Marshall-Newman amendment becomes a part of the Virginia Constitution, I will use the amendment to challenge Virginia’s domestic violence laws.

Look, I’m as liberal as they come, but I’m primarily a criminal defense lawyer, and I like it. One of the things I like the most is making certain that my clients – most of whom are guilty – are nonetheless given every opportunity to defend themselves against the power of the state.

So, take this to the bank. This lawyer, and the thousands of others around the state who defend accused domestic assaulters, each will be taking advantage of the opportunity to explot the Marshall-Newman amendment for our clients’ benefit.

Will it work? I don’t know, you don’t either, and our activist judges aren’t issuing advisory opinions.

Of course, our “activist judges” have issued a very real opinion that the existing prohibition on recognizing civil unions in another state is interpreted to trump even federal law. It’s a little hard to believe, therefore, that they wouldn’t interpret the constitution to trump Virginia law.

It makes me sick to my stomach that some amendment proponents are talking about the fact that unmarried domestic violence victims are, right this minute, being denied protective orders while conflicting court rulings are appealed over whether such protective orders are a “benefit of marriage,” as if it’s some sort of abstract, unimportant question, as if these are not real, living, breathing people whose lives have been put in jeopardy for political gain.

The fact that the lives of these people have been placed in jeopardy is being described, over and over again, as a “red herring,” and a “doom-and-gloom argument.” I cannot begin to express how disgusted I am with this abdication of moral responsibility by those who claim to speak for “family values.”

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Sad news: A hate crime in Loudoun

I had hoped that I would not have to post an announcement like this. I had hoped that the campaign against our community in Virginia would not descend into the kind of ugliness we saw in Oregon 14 years ago. Those of you who saw the film “Ballot Measure 9” will know what I am talking about. The use of demonizing rhetoric about the GLBT community in the campaign to pass a ballot initiative in that state gave rise to a pattern of anti-gay vandalism and violence that escalated as election day neared.

Yesterday, we received a report of a hate crime that occurred in Aldie in the early hours of Saturday, July 29. A home was vandalized, with damage estimated to be around $10,000. More than 80 trees and shrubs were ripped out or cut down, and the word FAG was painted repeatedly on and around the home. An accelerant had been poured on the lawn and around the house. It’s not clear at this point whether the perpetrators had intended to set the house on fire but were scared off before they had finished the job.

I am disgusted and saddened. To make matters worse, a young child, a relative who was visiting the homeowners, had to see this.

The good news is that the homeowners do feel that this crime is being taken seriously and being investigated by law enforcement as what it is: a hate crime and act of terrorism. We don’t know at this point either who the perpetrators are or the totality of their motivations, but regardless of those details this crime has taken place in the context of the increasingly shrill scapegoating of our community by the activists and elected officials who are determined to write discrimination into our Bill of Rights.

In Oregon, the discriminatory ballot initiative failed in large part because of its proponents’ outlandish propaganda and the terror that it unleashed. I had hoped that the anti-gay right might have learned a lesson from that defeat. Perhaps not. It is vital that the whole community be engaged to stop this hate in its tracks, and send a message to our local anti-gay activists that it will only backfire and hurt their campaign.

They need to understand this: You have gone too far. Not in our community, not in our town.

We will keep you informed of all developments in this matter, and of ways that you can give support to our Aldie friends. You can reach Heyward and John at hdrummon@speakeasy.net.

Please watch out for yourselves and for each other.

David Weintraub
Equality Loudoun
info@equalityloudoun.org
703.431.0882

Photo credit: Isis

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