People are proud of their political positions. I just passed a truck on the Greenway that sported the bumper sticker: “Give War a Chance”. The gentleman driving the truck is pro-war and proud of it. Personally, I’m anti-war, pro-environment, pro-science, anti-censorship, anti-theocracy, pro-marriage, pro-sustainability and anti-petroleum. I’ve thought long and hard about these positions. I constantly revisit them and test my assumptions against new information – pro-science, remember? I like to study arguments on both sides of the issues because that consideration deepens my understanding.
Oh, I forgot to mention that I’m pro-gay. As a founding member and husband of the president of Equality Loudoun, that’s to be expected. But what does it mean to be pro-gay? It means that I believe human sexuality is variable (as in the Kinsey scale) and that there is nothing immoral or unnatural about where one falls on that scale. All sex between consenting adults who love, honor and respect each other is at worst, morally neutral. Consensual sex between married people, including same-sex couples is a moral good – a mitzvah. Of course there is sexual immorality; pornography addiction, cheating, non-consensual sex, coercive sex, etc.
Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer people are normal people and they deserve equal treatment under the law. As a result of pro-gay advocacy, individuals and institutions that discriminate against LGBTQ people will soon be seen by mainstream society as the extremists that they are. They are really no different from people who discriminate against people of different races or religions. That’s really the point of LGBT advocacy. We have to get out into society and demonstrate that we are authentic and good people. Only then will a majority of people (65% seems to be the magic number) learn that all of the propaganda produced by the anti-gay industry is a pack of lies.
I’ve discussed the small ‘p’ “personal is political” aspect of being pro-gay. There’s also a big ‘P’ Political aspect. We have to work to elect openly LGBTQ candidates to office and we need to enact pro-gay legislation to protect our community against employment and housing discrimination. We need to protect sexual minority youth from institutionalized anti-gay bias and anti-gay classroom instruction ““ the Loudoun drama production policy and the Keith Deltano “abstinence until other-sex marriage” schtick come to mind. We need to stop discrimination against people with HIV and AIDs, and we need domestic partnerships, civil unions and full marriage equality protections.
If the above advocacy is pro-gay, then opposition to that advocacy is anti-gay. Anti-gay is not a slur. It’s a description of an ideological and political position. Why then do people who advocate against gay rights consider the term anti-gay to be a slur? This just mystifies me. In all other cases, including “Give War a Chance,” people are proud of their political positions. Anti-gay crusaders appear to be different. They are ashamed to be anti-gay. They must know that to be anti-gay is to be part of a devious anti-human agenda, that they are on the wrong side of history, and their behavior will be judged. I can’t come up with any other reasonable explanation.