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On words, redefinition of

From today’s Washington Post, regarding the marriage equality bill before the Maryland General Assembly:

The government gives special treatment to civil marriage because it shifts the burden of care from the government to the individual and the family. By giving families the tools to take care of themselves, the government efficiently reallocates its responsibility for citizen welfare and invests the married couple in a caretaking role that extends beyond their individual interest. This is the essence of good governance — providing people with tools to protect and improve the health of their own families. [Emphasis added]

I would love to hear a cohesive argument explaining how support for this deeply conservative value qualifies as a “far-Left” position (as I was recently accused of having by this guy, apparently yet another “Constitution Party” member). Someone needs to brush up on the meaning of “conservative,” methinks.

If you can make such an argument, let’s hear it.

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An amendment, not a revision

I just had an ‘aha’ moment. We can solve all the pal’n around with Christianists who hate ‘the gays’ and expensive constitutional amendments and all that angst with a few simple amendments to the bible. Let’s amend it to fit the modern world simply by making men and women equal. The amended bible could be called the Queen James Version (QJV). Here are a couple of amendments to consider:

Change from:

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
Genesis 2:24-25 KJV

To:

Therefore shall a person leave his family, and shall cleave unto his spouse: and they shall be one flesh.

And they were both naked, the spouses, and were not ashamed.
Genesis 2:24-25 QJV

Change from:

Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.
Leviticus 18:22 KJV

To:

Thou shalt not lie with a person to whom thou is not sexually attracted: it is abomination.
Leviticus 18:22 QJV

Works for me.

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Mitch Turner Googles himself, dislikes result

Several months ago, I published a link to a particularly wacky letter to the editor written by a spokesman for the Constitution Party of Virginia. That person, Mitch Turner of Hamilton, has apparently stumbled across that post, and is unhappy with what I wrote. I freely confess to ridiculing his letter, and I make no apology for that. Sometimes ridicule is an appropriate response, and this was one of those times. However, I do think that my response to his comments has shown too much of an unwillingness to seriously engage his arguments (you’ll understand why below). Rather than continuing to respond to his multiple comments on a months-old post, I thought I would provide him with a fresh forum to explain and expand on his views. My hope is that he can attract more of those who share these views to the Constitution Party, since they seem to be so disappointed in the alternatives. I think Mitch is right when he says that the Republican Party will never really provide a comfortable home for those who believe, as he does, “that individuals ARE NOT sovereign over their own lives” and that our Constitution was not intended to safeguard that sovereignty. There’s a wing of the Republican Party that shares this belief, but it will never cease being a site of divisive conflict with those who have more libertarian and pragmatic beliefs. In my view Mitch’s party would be more accurately named “The Christianist Party,” since its objective is the installation of imperial Christianism, not the defense of individual liberty.

At any rate, Mitch tells me that he is the webmaster for the CPV, not the chairman as I had stated in the previous post. He doesn’t share to what extent he has autonomy or is directed to post content to their website, but much of that content appears to be authored by him, including the gems I highlighted in the previous post. I don’t question the sincerity of his statements. To his mind, they are logical and self-evident – which is why I think he sincerely finds it evasive and infuriating for me to not address them the way he would like them to be addressed.

This will no doubt seem like a waste of time to many of our readers, and I can understand that as well. Box Turtle Bulletin recently published a series of posts entitled “Anti-gay Arguments We Don’t Bother With (And Should)” that unpack some of those anti-gay activist memes that are too fringe to be taken seriously within mainstream venues for discussion. They are, in the words of the BTB author, “the stuff of anonymous online comments, the product of an amateur punditocracy.” All of Mitch’s statements are in this category. The reason for bothering with them is simply that there are real people like Mitch who do take them seriously. One of the failures of the No on Prop 8 campaign was, I think, the failure to sufficiently educate voters about fundamental issues like religious freedom. Claims that religious leaders will be “forced to perform gay marriages,” or will be prosecuted for violating “hate speech laws” may well be silly, baseless, and “complete and total nonsense” as one of the Lambda Legal attorneys just called them; but that doesn’t matter if people who don’t know any better believe them.

We extend an invitation in our commenting policy to all in the larger community who want to engage in principled debate and discussion, as long as they don’t cross certain boundaries of civility. Mitch has expressed, by his repeated commenting, a desire to defend his statements and engage in some sort of discussion – so I invite him to do so. Let’s take a look at some of those statements and give him a chance to explain them more fully.

Mitch, you stated by implication that you think sex between consenting adults of the same sex should be illegal. Your central argument in favor of that proposition is this: “How can incest be declared illegal when homosexual sex is not?” You go on to declare that this implied statement is true because opposition to “incest,” along with “adultery, abortion, lying, and cheating” is “grounded in the same morality that opposes homosexuality.” The question I think you need to answer is this: What, other than your own designation of them as being in the same category do these assorted things have in common? Other than by relying on your own classification, can you explain, for example, how a gay or lesbian couple is the same as an incestuous couple? Please be specific. For example, are you trying to say that “incest” is a kind of sexual orientation? Are you trying to say that incestuous couples have historically been the target of discrimination? I think you should be able to recognize that so far, you have only made what I would call a tautological argument. You have essentially said only that “this list of things are the same because they are in the same category of things,” and then you justify putting them in the same category of things by saying that they are the same. This is meaningless. A “good reason” (my words) for opposing the legalization of incest would be one that doesn’t rely on this tautology. Can you think of one?

Moving on, you also made the statement that GLBT people “already have equal rights.” Can you explain specifically what you mean by this? I’ll refrain from asking more explicit questions here – it’s such a broad, sweeping statement that I’d like to see what your assumptions are first.

I think that’s probably enough for now. I would ask that you take a look at our commenting policy if you haven’t already, and give a little thought to what that might mean in terms of how you choose to frame your answers. Remember that you are a guest in our home.

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Tragedy of the heterosexual lifestyle

In my humble opinion, this would be a better headline for this WaPo article than Market for Romance Goes From Bullish to Sheepish – Are Guys With Less to Spend Less of a Catch?

The economy is swirling down the drain and men don’t have wads of cash to wave around in bars, so straight people no longer know how to go about finding dates. That appears to be the gist of the article, anyway.

“It’s been incredibly stressful for me,” said Neil Welsh, 27, the guy in the [Hugo Boss] suit, who until last year was marketing director for a booming real estate company. “I was so used to using my financial situation to leverage my dating.”

For many affected by the recession, dating is the least of their worries. But the market crash has had a particular impact on young adults who developed their dating skills in fat times, the twentysomethings who spent lavishly to show that they could afford the finer things. Now, with national unemployment rates at 8.8 percent for people 25 to 34, they are looking for more creative ways to attract partners — and reassessing what all that big spending really meant.

Do we need to read the rest of the article to understand what all that big spending really meant? No, we don’t. It meant that you were paying for sex. Continuing on, we find that those trapped in the lifestyle still operate from an archaic Me-Tarzan-You-Jane, Male as Mighty Hunter/Provider model of “partnership.”

I feel bad for the guys who don’t have jobs,” says one young woman in a bar, sharing that guys ask her out a lot less since the market crash. “I guess I’m kind of traditional. So if a guy can’t really take you out or doesn’t have the money or the state of mind to take girls out, then it’s not going to go anywhere.” Ah, tradition. So heartwarming.

Even in this post-feminist age, the vast majority of those interviewed said men pick up the tab on dates…Jamie Fabrizio, 26, a Catholic school teacher from Arlington, said a man doesn’t have to spend a lot, but he has to act like an Alpha male.

“Guys should be bold; whether or not they have money doesn’t matter,” she said. But if a guy asks her out, she added, she expects him to pay for dinner.

The author refers to the age in which this practice takes place (tongue in cheek, I presume), as “post-feminist.” Whatever it is, it’s sure not conducive to building real partnerships between two adult human beings who are equal to one another. “I guess I’m kind of traditional.” “Inadequacy; I can’t harp on that word enough. I just feel inadequate.” These are otherwise intelligent, educated people, but when it comes to possibly the most important decision they will ever make, finding a life partner, they regress into a silly Cinderella world where men are men and girls are girls.

Seriously, people. As important as marriage equality is for GLBT folk, I think its even greater value is to the much larger universe of heterosexual people who will benefit from seeing a healthier model of marriage. A partnership based on prescribed, inherently unequal responsibilities isn’t really a partnership at all, it’s an arrangement – and it’s an arrangement that too often truncates the full humanity of both participants.

It’s this aspect of marriage equality that really chills patriarchal traditionalists. It’s not equality for GLBT people per se that’s so problematic for them, it’s what that equality implies for them. It’s the possibility for genuine equality between marriage partners, including between women and men.

Meanwhile, in the absence of $15 martinis some of our heterosexual friends may discover that they actually enjoy each other’s company, a much better basis for marriage than “nice rack” and “oooh, Hugo Boss.” It’s a start.

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Dustin Lance Black and Sean Penn win their Oscars for ‘Milk’

“For me, the whole thing always was to pay it forward. Harvey [Milk] gave me his story. Harvey gave me his story, and it saved my life. And I just felt like it’s time to pass it on. The only thing I really knew I wanted to say is tell those [gay and lesbian] kids out there they are going to be all right.”Dustin Lance Black to reporters backstage after accepting his award

“I’d tell them to turn in their hate card and find their better self. These are largely taught limitations and ignorances. It’s very sad, in a way.”Sean Penn, asked about his reference to “signs of hate” outside the Academy Awards ceremony

Although it was also great to see Slumdog Millionaire get such sweeping recognition, these two awards were much deserved. Sean Penn told the Prop 8 crowd that they will have to live with their shame, and with the shame in their grandchildrens’ eyes. The truth hurts – let the squeals of impotent rage begin. Here is Dustin Lance Black, accepting the award for Best Original Screenplay. Very beautifully said, by someone who knows a community of religious bigots from the inside.

“Oh my God. This was, um, this was not an easy film to make. First off, I have to thank Cleve Jones and Anne Kronenberg and all the real-life people who shared their stories with me. And, um, Gus Van Sant, Sean Penn, Emile Hirsch, Josh Brolin, James Franco and our entire cast, my producers Dan Jinks and Bruce Cohen, everyone at Groundswell and Focus for taking on the challenge of telling this life-saving story.

When I was 13 years old, my beautiful mother and my father moved me from a conservative Mormon home in San Antonio, Texas to California, and I heard the story of Harvey Milk. And it gave me hope. It gave me the hope to live my life. It gave me the hope one day I could live my life openly as who I am and then maybe even I could even fall in love and one day get married.

I wanna thank my mom, who has always loved me for who I am even when there was pressure not to. But most of all, if Harvey had not been taken from us 30 years ago, I think he’d want me to say to all of the gay and lesbian kids out there tonight who have been told that they are less than by their churches, by the government or by their families, that you are beautiful, wonderful creatures of value and that no matter what anyone tells you, God does love you and that very soon, I promise you, you will have equal rights federally, across this great nation of ours.

Thank you. Thank you. And thank you, God, for giving us Harvey Milk”.

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Sound familiar?

That was the question posed by the source who sent this. Why, yes. Yes it does.

Corona del Mar (Orange County, CA) drama teacher Ron Martin reports that his principal canceled a student production of the Tony and Pulitzer Prize-winning musical Rent because it includes gay characters. Principal Fal Asrani claims that she only asked to review the script for “objectionable content,” at which time she says Martin decided there was “not enough time to revise the script.” There are all kinds of problems with Asrani’s version. First of all, it’s pretty unlikely that a drama teacher would cite such a reason; it would be illegal to “revise the script,” as Rent is copyrighted material. Significantly, Asrani identified the objectionable content she was concerned about as “homosexuality and prostitution.” Rent includes gay and straight characters, but contains no content about prostitution.

Students told the Daily Pilot that they were informed of the cancellation of the show at a drama class lunch meeting, and that the reason was that “Ms. Asrani did not want homosexual characters portrayed on stage.”

As it turns out, the production was going to use the “high school edition” of the script, a version from which all physical contact between gay characters (or, in the parlance of former Delegate and erstwhile Loudoun theater critic Dick Black, “homoerotic sex acts”) has been redacted. As senior Ryan Willison told the Daily Pilot, it was “hard to imagine what was left in the script to object to — aside from the presence of gay characters.”

“They don’t even let the gay couples kiss on stage, so I’m not sure what she’s objecting to,” Willison said.

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