More vomitus from Mr. Delgaudio

Our own Loudoun County laughingstock Eugene Delgaudio has done it again:

“We do not know if this arson and attempted murder was perpetrated by advocates of homosexual marriage, but the church has been the target of verbal attacks by the homosexual lobby and their apologists in the major media and this attack follows countless other recent attacks by homosexuals against Christians,” said Delgaudio.

Really? Countless recent incidents of arson and attempted murder by “homosexuals”? It seems to me we would have heard something about this on the news. And if there is any evidence to indicate what motivated this arson at the Wasilla Bible Church – whether it was a disgruntled employee, a member with a grudge against the pastor, bored teenagers, or possibly a political statement related to Sarah Palin – that hasn’t appeared, either. Let alone anything remotely connected to the anti-gay theology of that particular church.

What elevates this typical Delgaudio vomit from the merely stupid to the unforgivably monstrous is Mr. Delgaudio’s behavior in 2006. In July of that year, there was an actual hate crime perpetrated against a gay couple in Loudoun County. In that attack, 170 trees and shrubs were ripped out or cut down. Gasoline was poured all over the yard, around the house and over the well. The epithet “FAG” was spray painted all over the property. Unlike in the attack on the Wasilla church, the motivation for this act of vandalism was unmistakable. It was anti-gay animus.

In response, Equality Loudoun along with many local faith communities and business leaders organized The Cypress Project to restore the homeowners’ property and bring healing to the community. The project was endorsed and supported by several local elected officials, and community organizations as diverse as the Community Levee Association, the NAACP, and the Progressive Action League.

While Mr. Delgaudio apparently has time to make baseless and defamatory accusations against the GLBT community in Alaska, he was completely silent on this vicious hate crime perpetrated on our community in his own backyard.

Seriously, does this man have any redeeming attributes? Anything? I hate to sound so harsh, but he really does seem to be a waste of skin.

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Complaint department

Rejected.

Apparently, the Mormon Church (the regular one, not the fundamentalist splinter that arranges the rape of young girls and calls it “marriage”) is quite upset about the ad below, claiming that it constitutes “religious bigotry.” I’m afraid that this complaint doesn’t pass the laugh test. The fact is that the leadership of the Church of Latter Day Saints, much more than any other organization, funded and otherwise facilitated the dirty Prop 8 campaign. The ad is a perfectly accurate portrayal of their intent.

Hostility toward lesbian and gay couples is now indelibly part of LDS identity and history. They made their bed, and now they must lie in it. Behavior has consequences, and they have forfeited the right to complain about being criticized, even mocked. However, having said that, LDS leadership should have the opportunity to back up their claim that their campaign was not motivated by animus toward gay and lesbian people, only by their desire to maintain the exclusionary nature of civil marriage. They are being given that opportunity in their home state of Utah, where a number of bills protecting the basic rights of GLBT people will be considered by the legislature.

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Florida adoption ban overturned

The Florida law that states “No person eligible to adopt under this statute may adopt if that person is a homosexual” was overturned Tuesday, insuring that two young children will have a permanent home with the only family they have ever known. “There is no rational basis to prohibit gay parents from adopting,” ruled Miami-Dade Circuit Judge Cindy Lederman in finding the law unconstitutional. A few states (Arkansas now among them) prohibit adoption by “unmarried” couples and individuals, but Florida was the only state with a prohibition explicitly based on sexual orientation. The 1977 law was an anachronism left over from the era of Anita Bryant and Jerry Falwell.

Just a few short years ago, a bill with nearly identical wording to the Florida law was introduced by former Loudoun Delegate Dick Black (in fact, he cited Florida as his model). Black flew the discredited “researcher” Paul Cameron to Virginia for a press conference and to provide expert testimony. Black also did an interview with Concerned Women for America’s Robert Knight, in which they present some of the outrageous claims Black and his cohorts intended to make before the Senate committee – for instance, that children raised by gay or lesbian parents are at an increased risk of being “molested by that parent” of 50:1, and that adoption agencies are providing children as “rewards for certain sex activists.” Just crazy, bizarre stuff.

Listen: [audio:black_cwa20050215.mp3]

Fortunately, Senate members had been alerted to the fraudulent Cameron and his florid claims; the bill, even after its language had been watered down, failed overwhelmingly on a voice vote. A few of the Senators (more or less politely) questioned Cameron closely and found him to be unconvincing:

“I read the newspapers a fair amount, watch a fair amount of TV and try to stay abreast of things. I’ve never heard of any of these studies,” said Sen. Richard Saslaw, D-Fairfax. “You would think that if homosexuals were dying at the same average age of somebody who was a prostitute doing drugs, as you say, that this would be huge news on the front page of every newspaper in America.”

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The shift continues

More evidence that the anti-marriage crowd has given up, discriminatory amendment activity notwithstanding: Right wing Town Hall contributor Michael Medved tells us that Elton John Solves Gay Marriage Controversy.

Sir Elton managed to annoy many with these remarks last week at a New York fundraiser:

“We’re not married,” he told the press, “Let’s get that straight. We have a civil partnership…I don’t want to be married! I’m very happy with a civil partnership. The word ‘marriage,’ I think, puts a lot of people off. You get the same equal rights that we do when we have a civil partnership. Heterosexual people get married. We can have civil partnerships.”

But look what happens when someone suggests that separate might actually be equal – a major cheerleader for inequality seizes on it as a shining example of reasonableness, and ends up making the argument that gay and lesbian couples should have exactly the same state and federal rights that heterosexuals in civil marriages enjoy. I think that’s quite an advance. Thus spake Medved:

If more people on all sides of this issue embraced the simple, irrefutable logic of this clear-thinking superstar, a vastly divisive, unnecessary controversy could reach a successful and amicable solution.

Well, then. I’m sure Mr. Medved is available to explain to anyone who opposes full civil equality for same sex couples why that position contributes to a vastly divisive, unnecessary controversy.

Just to be clear: Separate is not, and by definition cannot be, equal. We got a ping on this post, quoted as a counterpoint to Elton:

Isn’t the codification of a separate, parallel institution for some couples in itself a powerful signal to think of those couples and that institution as something unequal? And that inequality in turn reinscribes the idea that gay people themselves are unequal.

Yes. I absolutely stand by those words. That’s exactly what the anti-marriage zealots say when pressed to explain what they’re so hysterical about: What they can’t abide is the idea that our love, our worthiness as spouses, our families, are “the equivalent” of heterosexual marriage. At its heart, the problem is that they can’t let go of the idea that the way they were made is better than the way we were made. And that’s why this is a civil rights struggle.

Why is Medved’s concession so significant? Because it makes clear that the only anti-marriage argument left with any traction at all is this “separate but equal” one. With some regional exceptions, there is no longer adequate support for a movement to deny same sex couples the rights of marriage, and the anti-marriage movement has been backed into a defensive posture of “but you have everything but the name!” This is a step-wise process. It won’t be clear to some people that it’s insufferably silly and redundant to have two parallel institutions for exactly the same thing* until they see it. That’s ok. What matters more is that they have the opportunity to see it. The end result is just as inevitable.

*The exception will be those unfortunate people who reduce the meaning of marriage to a vulgarity, i.e., merely a specific genital act. They have our sympathy.

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There really are no words for this

Today is the International Transgender Day of Remembrance, an appropriate occasion to consider the profound stupidity of former Governor Mike Huckabee’s claim that there hasn’t been enough violence visited on our community yet. It’s a little hard to believe that he doesn’t know.

The only remaining question: How low will they go? See the post below. “One thing that stands out in all these examples is that the victims of the widespread evil were categorized as something less than human.”

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How can they not see?

Via the Fairfax Family Forum, a very interesting post about how evil is hard to recognize when it is normalized.

The purpose of this piece is to condemn abortion, which is the reason that FFF has linked to it. For reasons that are well beyond the scope of this post, the GLBT-and-allies community occupies every point on the spectrum of that divisive issue, so we’re not taking a position on that. What’s astonishing to me is that the FFF is blinded to the full significance of these powerful words:

If were a 31-year-old woman with three little kids in a busy house in Germany 1941, would I have fully understood the evil that surrounded me? As a woman living in 2008 I can see the horror that was going on there, but at the time there were some awfully sleek lies being told about the situation; it would have been really, really convenient to let myself be persuaded by the lies and just make the nasty little problem go away by telling myself that it wasn’t really a problem at all.

Recently I was looking through some genealogy documents and noticed that a distant ancestor of mine owned a slave. My own flesh and blood, people probably not unlike me at all, participated in the horror of slavery. Can I be so sure that I would have seen the truth? Or, if I had lived alongside my ancestor, would I have included a human being on the list of possessions I owned? Even if I didn’t own a slave myself, would I have shooed the distasteful subject from my mind by surrounding myself with the comfort that all my friends seemed to think it was fine and, after all, it was perfectly legal? Evil’s most powerful tool is that it always works through lies; the lure to tell yourself that something bad is not really bad at all is a powerful temptation, and one that I’m not sure I could have resisted.

The author doesn’t go far enough here, in my opinion. Slavery was not only perfectly legal and socially accepted, it was justified by powerful men who claimed to speak for God, who claimed that human beings with dark skin were intended by God to be enslaved, to have less than human dignity and worth. Those who found in Scripture something contrary to that view were reviled and accused of apostasy.

One thing that stands out in all these examples is that the victims of the widespread evil were categorized as something less than human

…Every decade or so, take a look around the society in which you live, and ask yourself if there is any group of human beings who are seen as something less than human. A big tipoff is if dehumanizing words — terms other than “man,” “woman,” “child,” “baby,” or “person” — are used to describe any category of people.

And if you ever see that going on, you might be in the midst of something gravely evil. [Emphasis in original.]

When such terms are used sarcastically and bracketed with scare quotes to refer to people and their attributes, literally “man,” “woman,” “person,” “community,” “family,” “marriage,” “love,” “parent,” “rights,” and probably many more that I didn’t think of within the space of about 30 seconds, that is dehumanizing. It ought to be obvious that referring to a human being as “it” is, by definition, dehumanizing. Yet this is the language I have witnessed over and over being used to talk about members of my community, most especially by people who claim to speak for God.

People who are capable of grasping the significance of this language only in certain selected contexts need to think long and hard about this. I don’t at all doubt the sincerity of the author. With regard to our community, she seems to be an open-minded person who is thoughtfully struggling with questions raised by her conversion to Catholicism. Judging from my cursory read, her blog generates intelligent conversation free of the hatefulness we see all too often. The position she has come to embrace is that we are not intended to engage in any sexual act that is not open to conception. That’s what makes sense to her, but she doesn’t appear to have made a political crusade of enforcing it for others through public policy.

That’s the difference. I don’t know whether the dehumanizing language used in talking about GLBT people occurred to the author while writing the piece or not. I hope so. If not, I hope that I’ve at least provided some food for thought.

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I just voted, and so should you

Loudoun residents can vote absentee in person through Saturday, November 1. You do need to give a reason – such as a long commute, or volunteering for a campaign – but election officials are being very lenient. They want as many people as possible to vote before Tuesday.

I highly recommend that readers do this. Turnout is expected to be huge.

Loudoun had 179,392 registered voters as of Sunday, up from 140,291 in November 2004 [a 28% increase], and the registrar’s office expects as many as 90 percent of them to vote absentee or show up Tuesday.

I voted Thursday. I arrived at 2:30 pm., which I expected to be the least busy time. There was a line of around a dozen people waiting to fill out absentee ballot applications, which swelled to over 40 while I was there. Still, the staff was very efficient, and the entire process took no more than half an hour. Others who have voted later in the evening report as much as an hour wait.

There are two locations for absentee in person voting:

Loudoun County General Registrar’s office
801 Sycolin Road, S.E., Suite 102, Leesburg
Friday 8:30 a.m. – 8:00 p.m
Saturday 8:30 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Map and directions

Senior Center at Cascades
21060 Whitfield Place, Sterling.
Friday 4:00 p.m. – 8:00 p.m.
Saturday 9:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Map and directions

Some things you can do to speed things up:

1. Make sure there are no problems with your registration status* by checking here.
2. The above link will also confirm your polling location if you are voting on Tuesday.
3. Download and fill out an Absentee Ballot Application.
4. Read the Ballot questions online.
5. You MAY be asked to remove campaign buttons, t-shirts, etc., so use your judgment.

If you do plan to vote on Tuesday, election officials are saying be patient and be prepared to be there for a while.

Most important: Be informed. The 2008 NoVA Voter’s Guide to GLBT Issues is just one of many sources of information about our choices. Check our links page for other non-partisan and partisan sources.

*We have not heard of anything like this happening in Loudoun County. Still, this is a battleground area. This note was forwarded to us by someone with the NAACP:

I wanted to share with you what happened to my mother while attempting to vote in Orange County, Ca on Saturday. She went to an Early Voting poll and was told that there was no record of her in the system. She has not moved in 9 years and has voted in all national and local elections, including the primaries. After being directed to the Orange county Registrar of Voters Office, she was told that her address had been changed to a location that doesn’t physically exist. They showed us a handwritten request signed by someone she doesn’t know. We strongly believe this to be fraud and reported it to the Ca Secretary of State. Luckily, they corrected her registration and she successfully voted today. Had my mother waited until election day, she would not have been able to vote. Remember, she had no reason to believe that she wasn’t registered since she hadn’t requested any changes. How many people could be affected by this. Don’t assume that you are registered just because you recently voted in the last election or primaries. Please tell everyone you know!!!

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