You really have to be an amoral, misogynist pervert to come up with this.
A Manassas woman is dead, and a little kid has been orphaned, because of an apparent domestic violence situation. The above referenced blogger doesn’t seem to realize that intimate partner violence occurs across the lines of socioeconomic status, sexual orientation, race, etc. Contrary to stereotype, perpetrators are not restricted to authoritarian, self-proclaimed heterosexual white males such as himself.
The thing we know about the couple involved is that they were not married – or if they were, their marriage was not recognized by the Commonwealth of Virginia.
Here are some important things we don’t know: Were there outward signs that the victim was in an abusive relationship? Did she try to seek help from law enforcement, and was she discouraged or turned away because of anti-gay predjudice or confusion about Virginia law? Could this tragedy have been averted with a protective order?
Instead of concern about this loss of human life, our “colleagues” once again demonstrate their lack of a moral compass by joking about it. They don’t care about this life because the victim is less than human to them. As usual with these characters, something is amiss in the “Love Thy Neighbor” department. They should pray for forgiveness.
Don’t waste your energy on folks like that. They are hopeless. And linking to them just gives them more exposure that they deserve.
Vivian,
Thanks for the advice. One issue is that their anti-gay candidate, Jackson Miller won the last election and will be serving constituents through the end of the GA term. As hopeless as these folks are, they wield too much political influence, and that has got to stop.
All perfectly true. At the same time, when such people are allowed to repeat these perversions over and over without being corrected, it can create the impression that their behavior is acceptable.
In that way, it’s similar to the advice children are sometimes given to deal with a bully, “Ignore him, and he’ll go away.” Many times he doesn’t go away, and the inaction of the adults is taken as permission for the behavior to continue, by both the perpetrator and the other children. I’m not concerned with the impact of this on the bullies/perverts themselves, but on the uninvolved observers who could begin to think of this sort of behavior as almost normal. There’s a real danger of the coarsening of our sensibilities if we fail to call this what it is occasionally.
“Here are some important things we don’t know: Were there outward signs that the victim was in an abusive relationship? Did she try to seek help from law enforcement, and was she discouraged or turned away because of anti-gay predjudice or confusion about Virginia law? Could this tragedy have been averted with a protective order? ”
As a friend of the victim (by the way, her name is JANE) I’m just as saddened by the above paragraph as I am by the psychotic ramblings on the previously mentioned blog. They’re making light of her situation while you are trying to make her a martyr for the gay-rights movement.
You don’t care about her tragic death, you care only about her value as a statistic.
Don’t even ATTEMPT to peg me as homophobic. I’m just a heartbroken person who had to stand by Jane’s coffin last night and look at her once beautiful face now marred by domestic violence that even the mortician couldn’t cover up
Not at all, Kat. These are the kinds of questions that should be asked about any instance of domestic violence, which is still not treated as a serious issue by some in our supposedly enlightened culture. Please don’t make unfounded assumptions about the motivations of people you don’t know. I am terribly sorry for your loss.
I apologize. Between reading this blog and that of the “psychotic rambler”, I just felt as though no one was really thinking about JANE as a person. She did show signs of abuse. She had been treated in the ER for stitches on her hand as a result of being stabbed in the hand by the same person who killed her. While visiting her family in NY, she had made plans to return to VA, gather her things and leave the woman who had been abusing her for so long. This decision was the result of hours and hours of listening to her families pleas to leave this abusive relationship. She returned home to gather her things and was killed by her enraged girlfriend.
Jane wasn’t the type to cry for help. She was trying to complete schooling so that she could teach Kindergarten and provide a stable life for her daughter. When I read these blogs/comments I feel as though who she really was as a PERSON is diminished and, as I stated before, she is turned into a sad statistic.
If anything comes of all this, I hope that awareness is increased regarding domestic violence, whether it be in a same sex or opposite sex relationship. This didn’t need to happen, and I again I apologize for my reaction to this blog. Emotions are very raw right now and I feel like I’ve lashed out in the wrong direction.
I totally understand, and again, I’m so, so sorry. I didn’t know Jane, so I didn’t want to speculate any more than what I did. Certainly the last thing I would want to do is to treat her as a statistic. It just offended me that these perverts weren’t being called on their disgusting dehumanization of another human being – and for what? Their amusement? Political gain? I would hope that they would have to pay a price for such a display of inhumanity.
That’s the point, of course. We are all human and capable of hurting and being hurt, regardless of irrelevent personal characteristics that some people seem to be obsessed with to the point of misplacing their compassion.
Thank you for speaking up for Jane, even if you were lashing out at me. You’re obviously a good friend.